Princess A is in a couple of playgroups because she is an only child with a stay at home mom and dad which is awesome but we still want her to be social and meet new people. Most of the time these playgroups are fun. The kids learn to share and sometimes they get into fights over toys but it’s good for them. Most of the moms are chill and if Princess A tries to be gentle but ends up being rough the moms get it.
Well this week at playgroup Princess A climbed to the top of a fort like structure. Then another boy climbed up and pulled her tutu pants down exposing her bare bottom. Princess A did not like this one bit. I mean she is a lady and not just any lady… she is a princess. So Princess A pushed the boy off the fort and he fell and bumped his head. I apologized to the mom and then she got mad at me saying I should discipline my child. First, why did I apologize? Second, he pulled her pants down first… maybe you should discipline your son! If anything Princess A taught the boy that it’s not cool to pull a girl’s pants down and why should I discipline her for standing up for herself!
Not that I want any kid to ever get hurt but seriously what should I have done in that situation? A kid did something Princess A didn’t like and she reacted. Isn’t this how kids learn? If Princess A was just randomly beating other kids up I would do something but if someone pulled my pants down I would probably have the same reaction.
Unfortunately, I see this mom a lot. We live near each other and our kids are very close in age so we are in a lot of classes together. She ignores me now which I am fine with but sometimes I feel like I am back in high school when I take Princess A to playgroups. There are definitely “Mean Girls”, cliques, and gossip. I do my best to stay above it all and just focus on Princess A but sometimes it’s hard. Any advice on how to navigate the politics of playgroup?